Guide to Making Amends in Addiction Recovery: Step 9 of AA

This data was then extrapolated using FC caseloads to obtain an estimate of the total number of national FC caseworkers in FY 2021. An estimated annual caseworker growth rate of +2.2 percent was also computed using national NCANDS child protection caseworker data collected between FY 2003 and FY 2014. This data results in an estimated FY 2027 national total of 39,929 FC caseworkers. The casework supervisor count uses the generally applied ratio of one supervisor for five workers resulting in an FY 2027 number of 7,986.

What Step in AA Is Making Amends?

Perhaps the person is no longer living, or you no longer have contact with them and reestablishing contact would cause more harm. You may also have the opportunity in the future to make more direct amends with certain people in time. However, living amends this future possibility should not keep you from working your steps. While many people are receptive and supportive to attempts to make amends, some are not. Communicating about the way you harmed others can evoke strong emotions.

• The process of making amends is not about us fixing everything—that comes in time and from going to meetings, attending to our recovery and cultivating a relationship to a Higher Power.
• Requires that 15A NCAC 18E .1301, the Operation and Maintenance of Wastewater Systems Rule, be implemented so that System Classification Type IIa is described as a conventional system with 750 linear feet of trench or less and that System Classification Type IIIa is deleted.
• So be sure to talk with your sponsor and/or support group about your plan in the event that you need support.
• If they take my words for granted, sometimes, I take a break from talking.
• While the process may seem daunting at first, you can make amends in a way that’s sincere and respectful.
• Living amends refers to making promises to the people in your life whom you’ve wronged or who have hurt you.

Evidence-Based Addiction Treatments and Step 9 AA

It helps us learn from the experience and grow – in our relationship with ourselves and our capacity to love others. The Native Americans understand that restorative justice was a process of accountability and repair that heals the entire community. Judaism has a yearly practice of accountability and apology to those whom you have harmed with your actions. One of the 12 Steps is making amends, and that action is intended to heal both parties involved. Nelson Mandela understood that truth and reconciliation was the only true path forward for a nation that had experienced so much trauma.

• In most cases, the offender owes apologies to the people closest to them, like their friends, parents, and children.
• In response to requests for clarification, we are first more clearly specifying the actions for which retaliation is impermissible.
• Living Amends is a positive way to display to others and to prove to yourself that you have evolved from the person that you used to be.

Summary of Comments From Advocacy Organizations, Providers, and Universities

• Critics argued the Trump-era rules prevented people accused of sexual harassment, assault or discrimination from facing repercussions.
• Requires that 15A NCAC 02C .0107, the Construction Standards Rule, be implemented so that the horizontal separation between a water supply well and potential sources of groundwater contamination that exist at the time the well is constructed must be no less than 50 feet for any single-family dwelling with the septic tank and drainfield.
• If you’re actively using drugs or alcohol, making amends can seem like an empty gesture to the other person.
• We can also make a living amends by changing the behaviors that hurt or harmed them, and we can let go of the all-consuming guilt that would only tempt us to use again.

Other steps to promote placement stability could include—consistent with child’s best interests and the willingness of the provider—more regular visits by the caseworker, or counseling for the child alone or in conjunction with the placement provider to address any challenges. The NPRM preamble explained that title IV-E/IV-B agencies should have a sufficient number of placements specially designated to serve LGBTQI+ children throughout their foster care system to meet the requirement of the proposed rule to ensure that a safe and appropriate placement is available for and provided to each LGBTQI+ child in foster care. Additionally, consistent with the proposed regulation, this final rule requires that the title IV-E/IV-B agency ensure that no LGBTQI+ child experience retaliation in any placement, including those that are not Designated Placements.

When and Why Do People Make Living Amends?

ACF received a total of 13,768 comments on the NPRM and has carefully considered each comment. A summary of comments and responses are included in sections III and IV of this preamble. Based on comments received, ACF has made modifications to the final rule. Requires that 15A NCAC 18E .1403, the Tank Material Requirements Rule, be implemented so that reinforced precast concrete tanks must achieve a minimum 28-day compressive strength of 4,000 pounds per square inch. Directs that the concrete must meet a compressive strength of 3,500 pounds per square inch prior to removal of the tank from the place of manufacture. Provides for requirements on certification of above conditions, testing to verify certifications of conditions, reporting of test readings, and rebound hammers.

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Below, experts at Hazelden Betty Ford’s Connection™ recovery coaching program answer frequently asked questions about this reconciliation process and why it’s so vital to addiction recovery and spiritual health. Another example would be of a person who’s been a taker all their lives suddenly decides they no longer want to be self-centered and selfish. They may choose to make living amends by promising to change their ways and become more helpful to others. (iii) Facilitate the child’s access to age- or developmentally appropriate resources, services, and activities that support their health and well-being as described in paragraph (e) of this section. In the NPRM, we requested comments on whether state and tribal agencies are likely to incur additional substantial costs as a result of this rulemaking. Requires CPH to adopt a rule to amend the Advanced Pretreatment Sand Lined Trench Systems Rule consistent with this provision.

• When you go directly to the person, real spiritual transformation is more likely to occur.
• Many people find that the support they receive from AA meetings helps them prepare to make amends.
• Even so, you will have done all that you can to take responsibility for the past—and there’s a level of peace and freedom in that as well.
• As clarified in the NPRM, IV-E agencies may claim Federal funds under title IV-E for certain activities to comply with this rule, including recruiting and training providers to be Designated Placements.
• There were also a substantial number of commenters who appeared to misunderstand or misinterpret the NPRM’s provisions, including a substantial number of comments discussing the appropriateness or lack thereof of gender-affirming care for children.

Requires CPH to adopt a rule to amend the Tank Material Requirements Rule consistent with this provision. Requires that 15A NCAC 18E .0906, the Sand Lined Trench Systems Rule, be implemented so that there is no depth requirement for the naturally occurring receiving permeable horizon for any soil or site, nor can advanced pretreatment be required if the receiving permeable horizon is greater than 60 inches below the naturally occurring soil surface. Requires CPH to adopt a rule to amend the Sand Lined Trench Systems Rule consistent with this provision. Requires that 15A NCAC 18E .0601, the Location of Wastewater Systems Rule, be implemented using  new minimum setback and other building requirements for private drinking water wells or upslope springs serving a serving a single-family dwelling unit.

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Your AA sponsor, therapist, or another trusted person can help you determine how best to address making amends. At this time, that may include simply having a conversation where you acknowledge any financial burden caused by your actions and the fact that you cannot currently lift that burden even though you wish to do so. Making direct amends means actively confronting your behavior with the person who you harmed. In some cases, simply opening up a conversation with a friend or family member about your history of alcohol use can begin the process of making amends. When you’re ready to make amends, you can find support to guide you through the process.

David Kessler discusses a living amends in his latest book, Finding Meaning. In his book he shares the situation of a woman who has a fight with her brother. Essentially, it means making a radical shift in the way you live and sticking to that. When you make living amends, you make genuine changes to support your emotional and physical sobriety. In doing so, you promise to live a sober and honest life and never return to your old ways of lying and hurting the people you love the most. Unlike direct and indirect amends, living amends are not aimed at repairing ties with anyone specifically.